Helping the Introverted Child Succeed

"Being introverted is not something to outgrow; it is something to grow into." — Susan Cain. Is your child an introvert? One quick way to find out is to take the quiz at Quiet Revolution. You will have to give your email address to receive the results, but being on Susan Cain's mailing list would likely be beneficial. She's the author of a fantastic book I just finished reading called Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverts, which she wrote especially for kids and teens after the success of her first book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking for the adult set. I highly recommend both titles. If you know or suspect that you are an introvert, Quiet is an excellent guide that can help you understand introversion as a source of strength.

This is such a blessing, and I'm speaking from experience: although you might be surprised by this, I am definitely an introvert, and I do a great job of playing an extrovert when needed. That's why one of my passions is helping introverted students find their strengths and learn how to use and work with them in our extroverted society. Cain's book is an excellent resource. She discusses the traits of introverts and casts them in a positive light, which is sorely needed.

The book covers everything from choosing friends to dealing with bullies to finding a restorative spot in the house where an introverted child can find solace. She encourages kids to find their own way rather than feeling pressured to conform to our extroverted society. She also teaches them how to go at their own pace and develop a sense of what feels comfortable for them. The book is full of tips and tricks students can put to use right away. If you suspect your child might be introverted, definitely check it out. Teens could read it on their own, but younger children would benefit from reading it with you/having you read it to them.​